Is it my fault

Is it my fault that my children is stubborn?
Cane them, that's what I do. But you don't. That's why they are more stubborn.

Is it my fault that Barnabas wants to be carried ALL the time?
When I let him cry, you rebuke me saying that he will get wind and his balls will be one side bigger. Now you blame me when he cries whenever put down.

Now you said you give up taking care of them. ;(